Hi, Is it possible that your husband is going through depression due to the financial stress? Have you gone through his and your financial records or accounts to understand why is there always a lack of finance in the house? Has your husband always been abusive and aggressive? Has he always been under financial stress? These are the two possibilities which can explain your situation: a) your husband is under depression and needs medicine as well as counseling for sure and b) there is a financial mismanagement and you need guidance on how to use, invest, prioritize and save your fundings. I would not suggest divorce as this is a problem arising due to a bad phase of your life. This is a matter of change that needs to happen at some level so that situation can get better. As of now, I would suggest you both to go to a counselor who can make further suggestions. I can understand how stressed out you must be due to lack of support from your husband and its not easy to manage a life with so much aggression. Hence, you both should go for counseling and vent out your emotions in a safe and secure environment.