Hello Friend, Good that you are seeking a help. Your symptoms and problems could be at both physically as well as mental level. While the treatments can take care of the physical limitations, but you both need do a  lot at mental level. I  can see a clear gap and issue with both of you in this regard. Prefer to have a session with a marriage counselor to thrash out any mindset issues. You can reach me online for further evaluation, it will be convenient and effective for you both to come out of this suitation.