I understand how painful and exhausting it must be for you to watch your elder brother suffer from alcoholism, especially when he refuses help and becomes aggressive. You are doing your best out of love and concern — and that matters deeply. As a psychologist, here is what I recommend: 1. Shift the Approach — Avoid Direct Pressure People with long-term addiction often feel shame and defensiveness. Telling them to “quit” or “go to rehab” can feel like an attack. Instead, use non-blaming language, such as: “I know you’re going through a tough time. I care about you and just want to help with your health.” Don’t argue or lecture. Let him feel in control of small decisions (like eating or talking to someone) without forcing. 2. Watch for Health Warning Signs You mentioned he isn’t eating well. This, along with his refusal to do LFT (Liver Function Test), is concerning. Signs of liver damage include: • Weight loss • Yellow eyes or skin • Mental confusion • Swelling in legs If these appear, seek urgent medical care, even without his consent — through emergency services or a psychiatric hospital if he becomes violent. 3. Seek Support for Yourself First When someone doesn’t want help, you may feel helpless. But you can still get support from: • Local de-addiction counselors • Family therapy (even if he refuses, it will help you) They will guide you on how to set emotional boundaries and manage your own stress. 4. Prepare for a “Motivational Crisis” Moment Most alcoholics don’t change until they hit a point of personal crisis — like a health scare, job loss, or emotional breakdown. When that moment comes, you can be the calm, prepared person who says: “Let’s go see a doctor. You don’t have to do this alone.” Keep information ready about local rehab centers or doctors in Farrukhabad / nearby cities 5. Set Firm But Loving Boundaries You are not giving up on him — but you must protect your own peace and safety. If he becomes violent or harmful: • Do not engage or argue. • Walk away and stay with someone else. Addiction is a disease, not a moral failure. But recovery is only possible when the person is willing. Until then, the best step is to support yourself so you are emotionally strong when he is finally ready.

Hello, Your brother’s refusal to quit alcohol, aggression, and poor diet are signs of chronic alcohol dependence. This is a medical condition, not just a bad habit. What you can do: Avoid arguing — it increases resistance. Talk calmly when he's sober. Consult a psychiatrist — they can guide treatment even if he’s not willing. Ensure safety if he becomes violent. Join support groups like Al-Anon to help you cope. LFT can wait — first focus on getting him medical help. Let me know if you need help finding a doctor or center.

Get him admitted to De-addiction cum Rehabilitation centre for 2-3 months

Admit him in a good rehab centre with psychiatrist available there

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