Please take time to revisit the causes for your husband's annoyance, what are the reasons that he is blaming you and your parents. Can you do something about those issues.  When he is in cool frame of mind grab an opportunity to talk to him how you are feeling  (don't blame him or find fault as he will shut himself or walk away). It would be ideal if you both go for a family counselling atleast for couple of sessions and it will work. At this stage, if parents interfere things could become worse.