Commitment phobia

2017-02-24 00:12:56
I am in a relation for 1.5 yrs, still m not able to commit that person nd can get distracted to others if they are in constant touch with me. I lv my partner nd have full trust on her but I am not able to see a future with her. Whnevr she is with me I feel happy nd can feel the bond but the moment she goes everything just get vanished .. I broke up with her last week only bcz I don't want to hurt her any more ..but I can't see her going away from him ...why I am not sure why I am leaving her . I know she loves me genuinely nd I also want to love her return ...but my negative thoughts don't allow me do so ...nothing could be more heartbreaking than this ....m losing my confidence , behaving like a failed person , it seems like everything is just out of control and your s it does effect my studies , i am preparing for civil services ......do I have a mental disorder or its something else...plz guide
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It is simply lack of clarity and planning regarding  your future.
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Do consult a Psychological Counsellor  to get a clarity.

Answered2017-02-24 10:25:50

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If you are not able to commit to a person because you feel you cannot see a long term commitment with them or are concerned you might cheat on them, it is better you take time off from the relationship. By trying to maintain a relationship you have no genuine interest or attachment in you are hurting your partner. You cannot force yourself to commit to someone you don't want to. Take time off to figure out why you got into the relationship in the first place and where you see it going. Think about your partner's expectations and how much you can deliver. It is always better and more considerate to terminate a relationship with no future rather than prolong it and hurt someone else as well. If you are not sure, take a step back. Take a hard look at your relationship and only when you are on the same page as your partner, consider continuing with it. Consider professional help if you are feeling hopeless or suicidal.

Answered2017-02-24 05:47:40

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