Dr. Prof. G.B. Singh (PhD)

I realise that we can avoid medication if psychological help can be sought on time. I have been able to help myself from going into a depression with therapy. Initially, I was hesitant because I was not very sure of what we would achieve, and session cost always played on my mind. But when I did the calculations I realised that a lifetime of therapy, saves me not only the cost of medication but the cost of damage to my body and the resulting changes in my brain I decided to go for therapy. I have been able to build a significant amount of resilience, where I do not let adversity define myself. I am now in a position to move forward with rationalising my issues, transcending pain and by perceiving bad times as a temporary state of affairs. It’s possible to strengthen your inner self and your belief in yourself, to define yourself as capable and competent. Learning how to prepare myself for emotional emergencies and being adept at accepting what comes at me with flexibility rather than rigidity. Prof Singh literally taught me to be like bamboo in a hurricane to bend rather than break. Or, even if I feel like I am broken for a time, develop a strategy where deep inside me I know that I cannot be broken for ever. In fact I would go to such an extent to say that before we enter our work life we should always get ourselves vetted and tested to understand our personality so that we can fight with stress and tension when we go out to work, and we know how we will respond and this can then be of immense use in our day-to-day life, where as I had started to do, we do not need to catastrophise everything and consider that everything and everybody is against us. I think everybody should get a therapist wherever they are and they should try out a few different professionals before they settle on one, the reason is that it is very important to be able to click with the person who is helping you as you can't keep changing.

I visited Dr GB Singh three months ago and have been seeking his advice for the past three years. My initial consult was a month before my marriage when i was having doubts regarding my partner. I am a Christian by faith and mine was an arranged marriage. After meeting my partner ,he advised me not to go ahead with the marriage as I was getting second thoughts, but I decided to go for it. After a month of my marriage trouble started brewing as I came to know that my wife had slept with two men.I had asked her about this during our courtship period and she told me that she was a virgin. I had a girlfriend before marriage but i never got involved physically. When I came to know about my wife's past I felt betrayed,my trust was broken. I couldn't talk to anybody about this and felt that I was all alone.I was in a dilemma and decided to consult Dr GB singh again. Meanwhile, conflict started growing between my wife and my parents regarding household chores which added to the chaos.I was feeling trapped and felt that this marriage has brought me nothing but misery.He met both me and my wife and counseled us. With his help I was able to handle an otherwise difficult situation. He was very kind and supportive, I remember calling him whenever I felt low and he didn't hesitate to accommodate me despite his busy schedule.He even stretched beyond his practicing hours many times. All I have to say is that he has a gift for reading people and provided the much needed support when I lost all hope.

My wife was diagnosed with schizophrenia eight years ago before we met Prof Singh. The two clicked instantly. Meeting Prof GB came at the right time for me as I was thinking about what I was going to do next and feeling a bit lost. Our session’s have really helped me a lot. When my relationship with my family was going badly, I found it very hard to adjust to my wife. Before I started the session’s I was scared to be alone with my wife and honestly would work late. Every call with a agitated voice from her and I’d start to feel anxious and worry that it was the precursor to another breakdown. Now I can spend lots of time with her. My wife is much more comfortable in her own skin and know what to do if she feel’s the old anxiety coming back. She feel’s stronger than she used to. Our relationship has had a positive effect on my work too, now I have a better approach. I feel very good about life now. I feel I know that I can have the life I want and we have got lots of plans. The eye opener was the test with hundreds of question’s which Prof Singh gave my wife and he gave me one also and complimentary from his side. We used that diagnosis to go to our doctor and request a revaluation of the medicines. We are now down to just 20Mg of One Medicine from the so many medicines. We will be following up with the sessions until we find peace in our relationship, as that was totally missing. We are close also now after 9 years. Very happy and thankful.

While people in the earlier generations were more likely to see no solutions to problem they faced, to have a sense of resignation about their miseries, as a member of the current generation I see possible guidance and help in talking intimately. With the decline of normal structured institutionalised ways of dealing with problems and more and more friends of mine and my peers making use of intimate relationships as an arena for working out problems (which end in serious conflict). It is the thought that over the last five years experience in my family where we had become this modern family in the modern world where there is no room for cordial relationships, that the level of clash and contention in the relationship was so bad that we were not even talking nicely, in fact we were talking so sweetly in our plastic relationship that it was like a TV serial. My fault was and is that in trying to be a perfect modern husband always trying to please my wife's ego that I had lost all the self-esteem I had in every respect. I felt like a surplus burden. I came to Dr singh , as the correct relationships within my family were now been completely broken with well meaning relations and in-laws. I had this desperate life in which the power struggle and contention between my wife and me was horrible. Dr Singh has helped us come close to each other and develop the morale in the face of suffering. My wife could relate a lot to him and his logic and we have been able to overcome as we realised the futility of constant conflict. It is ironical that we stay together but deal with contemporary issues in unrealistic ways. The assessments done by Dr Singh have also helped a lot in bringing us back to a sense of life balance as it placed in front of us the reality of what each of us was.