Dr. Prof. G.B. Singh (PhD)

I realise that we can avoid medication if psychological help can be sought on time. I have been able to help myself from going into a depression with therapy. Initially, I was hesitant because I was not very sure of what we would achieve, and session cost always played on my mind. But when I did the calculations I realised that a lifetime of therapy, saves me not only the cost of medication but the cost of damage to my body and the resulting changes in my brain I decided to go for therapy. I have been able to build a significant amount of resilience, where I do not let adversity define myself. I am now in a position to move forward with rationalising my issues, transcending pain and by perceiving bad times as a temporary state of affairs. It’s possible to strengthen your inner self and your belief in yourself, to define yourself as capable and competent. Learning how to prepare myself for emotional emergencies and being adept at accepting what comes at me with flexibility rather than rigidity. Prof Singh literally taught me to be like bamboo in a hurricane to bend rather than break. Or, even if I feel like I am broken for a time, develop a strategy where deep inside me I know that I cannot be broken for ever. In fact I would go to such an extent to say that before we enter our work life we should always get ourselves vetted and tested to understand our personality so that we can fight with stress and tension when we go out to work, and we know how we will respond and this can then be of immense use in our day-to-day life, where as I had started to do, we do not need to catastrophise everything and consider that everything and everybody is against us. I think everybody should get a therapist wherever they are and they should try out a few different professionals before they settle on one, the reason is that it is very important to be able to click with the person who is helping you as you can't keep changing.

I visited Dr GB Singh three months ago and have been seeking his advice for the past three years. My initial consult was a month before my marriage when i was having doubts regarding my partner. I am a Christian by faith and mine was an arranged marriage. After meeting my partner ,he advised me not to go ahead with the marriage as I was getting second thoughts, but I decided to go for it. After a month of my marriage trouble started brewing as I came to know that my wife had slept with two men.I had asked her about this during our courtship period and she told me that she was a virgin. I had a girlfriend before marriage but i never got involved physically. When I came to know about my wife's past I felt betrayed,my trust was broken. I couldn't talk to anybody about this and felt that I was all alone.I was in a dilemma and decided to consult Dr GB singh again. Meanwhile, conflict started growing between my wife and my parents regarding household chores which added to the chaos.I was feeling trapped and felt that this marriage has brought me nothing but misery.He met both me and my wife and counseled us. With his help I was able to handle an otherwise difficult situation. He was very kind and supportive, I remember calling him whenever I felt low and he didn't hesitate to accommodate me despite his busy schedule.He even stretched beyond his practicing hours many times. All I have to say is that he has a gift for reading people and provided the much needed support when I lost all hope.

My wife was diagnosed with schizophrenia eight years ago before we met Prof Singh. The two clicked instantly. Meeting Prof GB came at the right time for me as I was thinking about what I was going to do next and feeling a bit lost. Our session’s have really helped me a lot. When my relationship with my family was going badly, I found it very hard to adjust to my wife. Before I started the session’s I was scared to be alone with my wife and honestly would work late. Every call with a agitated voice from her and I’d start to feel anxious and worry that it was the precursor to another breakdown. Now I can spend lots of time with her. My wife is much more comfortable in her own skin and know what to do if she feel’s the old anxiety coming back. She feel’s stronger than she used to. Our relationship has had a positive effect on my work too, now I have a better approach. I feel very good about life now. I feel I know that I can have the life I want and we have got lots of plans. The eye opener was the test with hundreds of question’s which Prof Singh gave my wife and he gave me one also and complimentary from his side. We used that diagnosis to go to our doctor and request a revaluation of the medicines. We are now down to just 20Mg of One Medicine from the so many medicines. We will be following up with the sessions until we find peace in our relationship, as that was totally missing. We are close also now after 9 years. Very happy and thankful.

While people in the earlier generations were more likely to see no solutions to problem they faced, to have a sense of resignation about their miseries, as a member of the current generation I see possible guidance and help in talking intimately. With the decline of normal structured institutionalised ways of dealing with problems and more and more friends of mine and my peers making use of intimate relationships as an arena for working out problems (which end in serious conflict). It is the thought that over the last five years experience in my family where we had become this modern family in the modern world where there is no room for cordial relationships, that the level of clash and contention in the relationship was so bad that we were not even talking nicely, in fact we were talking so sweetly in our plastic relationship that it was like a TV serial. My fault was and is that in trying to be a perfect modern husband always trying to please my wife's ego that I had lost all the self-esteem I had in every respect. I felt like a surplus burden. I came to Dr singh , as the correct relationships within my family were now been completely broken with well meaning relations and in-laws. I had this desperate life in which the power struggle and contention between my wife and me was horrible. Dr Singh has helped us come close to each other and develop the morale in the face of suffering. My wife could relate a lot to him and his logic and we have been able to overcome as we realised the futility of constant conflict. It is ironical that we stay together but deal with contemporary issues in unrealistic ways. The assessments done by Dr Singh have also helped a lot in bringing us back to a sense of life balance as it placed in front of us the reality of what each of us was.

Since childhood I have been experiencing numerous difficulties in my life, began by my father and mother who were continuously abusing each other and in some emotionally hurting me in different ways, my actions had developed a sense of helplessness inside of me that stayed with me for many years to follow starting at the age of 16. I got married to my husband who at first seemed to be a man of well maners, but I saw the changes with my own eye’s that he was completely the opposite of my mother, my younger sister and my expectations, besides he had created this abusive unhealthy environment for all of us which had further increased our level of helplessness. We were not able to take control over our life. Even today at 33 due to a previous lack of control in important life milestones, I feel that sadness could have been easily avoided. If my father had left home, it would have been less traumatic, and if my mother rather than crying everyday with tear’s had held a firm stance , I would not be in this place. Now every time there is talk of marriage, I feel a sense of anxiousness and dread about what will happen to me and how will my husband and his family be towards me. Saying all will be well is easy said. Going through would be terrible. I have been under consultation for 2 years, and he cut through my BS and has guided me to recovery steadily but surely. He is a very calming presence, and we have benefited from doing away from emotional numbing and passivity, following my victimisation. I felt there was no freedom from my situation. I learnt have enough will power to, or walk away from situations which were putting me under stress and giving me depression. From not having one, I now understand how to have a personal perspective of the situation based my own unique personality.

Loneliness may be a common experience but my levels of loneliness have gradually increased through the middle adult years, and I have seen the social isolation, not subjective objective personal isolation.I lived a relatively solitary life and did not feel lonely, but conversely, now that I can live an ostensibly rich social life I feel lonely nevertheless. This distressing feeling that accompanies the feeling that my social and personal needs are not being met by the quantity or especially the quality of people took a toll on my health. I know loneliness is an equal opportunity tenant for the poor and the rich, and let me say that it is the equivalent of physical pain, and thirst for having someone by my side. I visited with Dr Singh as the pain of disconnection, and my feelings of loneliness were not succeeding in motivating connection or reconnection with others. As my Therapist Dr Singh has helped me drag myself out of the chronic state I have been in for some time as I was afraid it would have serious consequences for my memory and my emotions. I definitely recommend him and in fact my suggestion is that wherever we be, we must not hesitate to approach a mental health professional if there is a requirement. I also have seen the benefit of not visiting in person but going through therapy through the online process the way it is normally done in my home country in Canada , and I would encourage every person that they must not hesitate to find themselves a good mental health professional as after doing all the cost benefit analysis I have come to the conclusion, that it is much more expensive in terms of the toll that our body takes when we have to be on heavy drugs and if we can avoid it by self motivation and auto suggestion with the guided help offered by * ************* psychologist we must reach out for their expertise.

We have had wonderful sessions for the past eight months, and the nature of relational meaning we have been able to construct in our talks with Prof Singh, has helped us unify the considerable diversity that was there in our family for different issues. The conversations have helped us facilitate a 're directing of our inner resources to the planning of ways to overcome the conditions that precipated the feelings of aloofness , restlessness and anxiety that was our life. Therapy needs a stomach for accepting our own faults, as I realised after the diagnostic tests and initially it took me time to swallow the profile that was presented to me. I am however happy we persisted and went through the transformative process. It took a lot to leave our education and internet based knowledge behind to have productive talks and in a way we are happy we did. We only benefited through the process .

As a Mom of a class 10th student , I can see that students have been highly vulnerable to fluctuating issues during the COVID-19 pandemic, and stress and mental health problems increased during the pandemic for my son also. I never knew that perceived stress and troubling thoughts among teenagers could be so severe during the pandemic and raise stress levels so high that children could not sleep, and even eat properly as they felt their weight was increasing exponentially. The coronavirus experience has been so unique that it has effected widely disparate areas of life on the social and individual levels, for us.

The enforced social isolation, led to a strong bout of psychological distress and high anxiety and stress levels for us after seeing our son and daughter become directionless. Although my children were not exposed to the pandemic I saw the vulnerability with regard to the deterioration of mental stress for my son.

He developed high stress and anxiety levels and negative psychological consequences of the COVID-19 pandemic. As we could not handle it at home, we collaborated with Mr Singh to create an efficient system, off both psychological and academic help for him. Dr singh helped our son fight the overabundance of information and misinformation.The generalised fear that our son developed was impeding studies and leading to depression and anxiety for our son, leading to a deterioration in health with very high stress levels, were being expressed also in decreased satisfaction in day to day activities and a lack of desire to study and interact with the family. He would sit for hours alone in the room and shout when we tried to speak sweetly to him. We went for online psychological counselling with sir on a regular basis which was very critical as we realised during the session’s as he had self harm thoughts, which we were able to control with Dr singh’s help, who helped us tremendously, to decrease the stress levels for our son and indirectly us a parents.

Having a positive attitude about marriage and negatives ones about divorce is crucial, as is having family and friends that share these values. Equally crucial is securing professional counselling that is positively committed to saving marriage. Practically, dealing with life issues that were undermining my marriage, where my wife fell into a pattern of binge drinking as well a fighting over my money and your money are vital and can be helped by an experienced therapist is a life saving mantra I now believe in.

Our past experiences were very traumatic for me as the professionals always suggested and argued that as she is in an unhappy in her marriage to persevere would be crul for her wellbeing. My wife was convinced that our marriage as it was heading for divorce is bad and full of holes, abuse and other negative dynamics that are irresolvable. She was also convinced that our divorce would be better for all concerned. This notion was contradicted by Dr Singh, who very patiently went through everything and showed my wife that every married couple faces severe challenges in their relationship, which at times seem to drag on without clear resolution. With two girl children I did not want to divorce and just wanted basic decncy, but today our culture emphasises self-fulfillment and some moral subjectivity, and has destigmatized divorce. There is little pressure or encouragement to stick together through serious marital challenges. However, most divorces can be prevented, and doing so leaves a lot of us better off, as was with us, and the common notion today that that divorce typically ends a marriage riddled by severe conflict is false, has been false for us thanks to the doctor. He made my wife believe and showed her how happily, by contrast, working on the unhappy but a repairable marriage is successful. I am happy that my investment in the sessions worked out well in the end as I had hoped for so badly. I hope others can have the same success as we had. But I had the stomach for it and the willingness to spend time and sessions for it.

I live in the US and was not sure how to find a great therapist in India for my brother. I read great reviews about Dr. Prof. G.B. Singh online and decided to reach out to him. Because of Covid, we started virtual sessions with him instead of in-person, but that actually turned out to be great because it removed the friction of my brother having to travel and wait to get help. Virtual sessions also helped my brother keep his conversations private by him not having to rely on any family members to travel with him. He has been a tremendous support to my brother - he’s non-judgemental, patient and very insightful. Several times he decided to extend my brother’s sessions to make sure he’s understanding the root cause of his issues. He has helped my brother with several topics including building solid relationships, managing anxiety, improving self esteem, tackling procrastination, building a career plan and most importantly developing self confidence. In the US, a therapist of his prestige and talent would easily charge $300-$500 per session. We are fortunate to have found him and my brother is finding a way to build a great life for himself through his interactions with Dr. Singh. Highly recommend him to anyone who is looking for a world class therapist.