Sensate Focus (Mutual Pleasuring by Touching)

SENSATE FOCUS (Mutual Pleasuring by touching)

Basis 

Touch is a vital of personal human communication.

Tenderness, affection, solace, understanding, desire, warmth, comfort, any feeling can be conveyed to the partner by touching. Thus a fullness of sexual expression can be achieved.

No goal orientation Elimination of pressure of performance and hence fear of failure

.Procedure: Both the partners are equally involved. 

The entire act should be slow, steady and full of love and understanding. 

There should be no time limit.

Foreplay Step -1 Both the partners take off their clothes

One partner (either one)gives experience of pleasurable touching to the other; massages or fondles the otherA soothing lotion is used for application

The Getting partner gives verbal/nonverbal directions about preferences for the location and the intensity of touching

The giving partner provides pleasure accordingly to the getting partner The getting partner should inform the giving partner if anything is unpleasant, irritating or distracting Both should think and feel sensuously Avoid touching the breasts and genitals at this stageThe couple should Not proceed to intercourse

The entire procedure is reciprocated by the other partner The procedure is repeated daily for 3-4 days.

Foreplay Step 2 The previous procedure is repeated by both the partner 

They proceed to the touching the breasts and genital

The couple should Not proceed to intercourseTouching is reciprocated by the other partner

Foreplay Step 3 Touching is done to each other by both in a simultaneous and mutual way.

Note: In Indian situation, Sensate Focus Exercise can be done by taking bath together and using oil for massage, provided there is availability of enough of water and privacy.