The centre of sex is in the mind, not in the organs!

Sexual build- up is necessary for any sexual activity.    

It's the thought which says holding a hand of whom you are attracted to is pleasurable but is little less pleasurable than may be kissing her which is little less pleasurable than the act of sex itself.

Sexual pleasure can be reduced to play of certain neurotransmitters and hormones like dopamine, oxytocin , prolactin, adrenaline and testosterone!

What about the difference in real sex and virtual sex?

If you see the brain's neural response and hormonal secretion, it is just identical in actual sex and when you fantasise about it!!! 

Dopamine and oxytocin are the key players in sexual response and pleasure. Dopamine is associated with pleasure, arousal, sensuality, attraction and oxytocin is  associated with attachment.

The DO Combo can be a pretty strong weapon in the game of attraction- a pure biochemical love potion if you will. 

And the thing is, you don't even have to engage in sexual activity in order to prime these neurotransmitter responses, which is why fantasies are so powerful. 

You create the sexual images in your mind, and your brain responds neurologically, even in the absence of tactile stimuli. 

BRAIN IS NOT A SNOB OR CHOOSY WHEN IT COMES TO SECRETION OF THE CHEMICALS...AND IT RELEASES THEM NOT ONLY WHEN ONE IS HAVING SEX WITH AN EXTREMELY BEAUTIFUL GIRL BUT ALSO WHEN ONE IS KEENLY GOING THROUGH AN ADULT MAGAZINE OR EVEN WHEN RECALLING PAST SEXUAL EXPERIENCES.

Sex is a plain pleasure movement; Pre- marital or marital.

So is it ALRIGHT, NOT TO RUSH? BECAUSE-

  1. There is an association of guilt /right or wrong due to one's social conditioning  , Which is a gnawing conflict in the head! 
  2. As in a relationship , when one has so-called crossed the final frontier...that is having physical sex , it may not be so stimulating after that..just as there is a REFRACTORY PERIOD after ejaculation where one  does not get stimulated.
  3. As described earlier the neural firing and secretion of pleasure hormones are  the same when fantasising or just caressing/kissing  or even recalling the past sexual experience.

So is it better not to rush??