1. Poor conflict management
  2. Allowing conflict to escalate
  3. Looking only at the negative (or the perceived negative)
  4. Invalidation of one another's feelings
  5. Withdrawing and avoiding
  6. Unwillingness to compromise
  7. Not making time to nurture the marriage
  8. Becoming too busy with school, children, church callings
  9. Locked into your own personal routines
  10. Keeping outside interests separate from one another
  11. Power differential:
  12. Buying into gender stereotypes
  13. Misuse of priesthood responsibility to manipulate and control
  14. Money as a way to manipulate and control
  15. Inability or unwillingness to handle differences in expectation following are some common trouble areas
  16. Money management
  17. Sexuality
  18. Handling family traditions, holidays, special occasions
  19. Disciplining children
  20. Household cleanliness
  21. Relating to parents and in-laws
  22. Religious practice
  23. Following are these four styles listed from least to most destructive:
  24. Criticism
  25. Attacking ones character and personality with blame
  26. Making global accusations rather than specific complaints
  27. Contempt
  28. Intent to insult and abuse your partner psychologically
  29. Includes name calling, hostile humor, mockery, and body language (e.g., sneering, rolling eyes).
  30. Defensiveness
  31. Denying responsibility
  32. Making excuses
  33. Cross-complaining
  34. Yes-butting
  35. Whining
  36. Negative body language (e.g., arms folded across chest, hands touch neck)
  37. Stonewalling
  38. One partner does not react to the other
  39. Ignores
  40. Leaves the room
  41. Responds by sarcastically saying, "whatever", or "you're right" as a way to get the other person off his/her back

A healthy, lasting marriage draws from abundant wells of positivity as well as a sense of mutual understanding on effective styles of interacting.