Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual health related problems that men face.
This is a very frustrating problem which has an adverse effect on the psyche of the man and leads to not only an unsatisfactory sex life for him but also for his wife or partner. It can put a tremendous amount of strain on the relationship.
This condition is characterised by the man ejaculating very soon after starting sexual intercourse or sometimes discharging in a state of arousal itself, before even consummating the act itself.
The nature of the problem makes a lot of men embarrassed to seek help which in turn leads them and their partner to suffer in silence.
Here are a few tips which can help control premature ejaculation, these involve certain changes that can increase the time a man lasts in the act of sexual intercourse before reaching an orgasm:
- Increase the frequency of lovemaking: This may sound counter-intuitive but the more one indulges in sexual intercourse, the better control he will have on when he ejaculates.
- Indulge in Foreplay: This has the dual benefit of sexually satisfying your partner and of reducing the pressure on you performing during sexual intercourse, and this will lead to better ejaculatory control.
- Distract yourself: Thinking of something not related to sex during intercourse may help in delaying ejaculation. You need to be careful in doing this though as sometimes it may cause you to lose your erection and be counter-productive to what you are trying to do, that is prolong your lovemaking.
- Speed of Masturbation: Unfortunately, the practice of self-pleasure has a lot of myths and taboos attached to it due to misconceptions and lack of information. The truth is that masturbation is a normal and healthy part of our lives. Masturbating in a certain way can also help control ejaculation. The trick is not to masturbate too quickly but to do so slowly. Try to last more than 5 minutes before attaining an orgasm. The more control you have on your ejaculation during masturbation, the better control you will have during lovemaking.
These are just a few easily implemented changes on how you approach sex, which can improve your control over premature ejaculation.
You need to have patience and communicate with your partner, explain to her what you are trying to do and I’m sure she will understand and support you.
If you are still suffering from premature ejaculation after trying the above mentioned tips, then consult your doctor or a qualified sexologist, who can then suggest you different techniques and or medication to help you get rid of this frustrating problem. Make sure never to self-medicate.