Dyslexia & Learning Disabilities and Counselling Clinic

Okay, it took me 5 months to build the courage to come see a Psychologist. The first one was pretty superficial. I thought I would save money, but it was a nightmare. 8 months ago I was sure I will go crzy one a lot those days. I felt warranted in the feelings was having about so many issues with my partner. Then I tried to have discussions with her about the issues, and it somehow always got screwed and off subject, and she always somehow circled back to old arguments that had nothing to do with the subject at hand, and I was the inevitable guy idot. I had started to realize how negative my partner and the only bond we shared was when I complained about anyone . I realized that I was getting into a nsty habit of being judge-y and I also started understanding that my ex was always a victim, and never accountable.

Every argument I ended up having, results in it being my fault, even if I was the one with the hurt feelings to begin with. My partner had no ability to argue effectively, and went right for the jugular when I tried to to have a calm conversation about my feelings or an issue that hasn’t been resolved.

Even when the Psychological Test Dr Singh conducted indicated I was pithing parameters. She was weeping and said it is all my fault and that I asked Dr Singh to take my side. So much BULL. Obviously, when you don’t feel respected or supported, you may start to reciprocate those feelings. Pity is not love, my friends. I was referred to Dr Singh by me friend from my IIT in K and she and her now husband are doing very well and leading calmer lives after their therapy. My therapy has helped me to stand on my feet and for myself and assert my feeling without creating conflicts. Dr GB has a way of putting issues and options across in such a succinct manner that therapy lasted for only 5 sessions and we had our moment of clarity pretty much by the 4th session. I am glad I broke out of my ego not to take help and contacted him.

I am Anubhi’s sister in law and after the Shristi incident, she made sure our son also goes through the assessment with Prof Singh. I really want to thank Prof Singh and as my son had reached all his developmental milestones at the normal times, although he did seem to be quite a bit clumsier than his siblings and found it particularly difficult learning how to ride a tricycle. We were very proud that, at 2.5 years old, he knew not only all his colours, but his numbers and letter names too. At his 3-year check his doctor was impressed, by his use of the word 'penultimate'. He was passionate about Thomas the Tank Engine, and collected everything to do with it. He would play the same part of 'Thomas' videos over and over again, and could repeat chunks of the narrative. He also liked watching advertisements and, on seeing his grandmother he would delightedly run up to her and announce, ’Surf Excel washes brighter!'

When he started school it became evident that he could read, but that he found it very difficult to follow a story or think about the characters' actions. He preferred books containing facts, and his interest changed from “thomas‘ to Cars, which he talked about even when people weren’t listening. He found it difficult to sit with the rest of the group on the carpet and he seemed to believe that the teacher was talking only to him-so he was puzzled to be scolded for interrupting. In the playground one day he hit another child, and when asked why, he explained that he was only hitting back. In fact, the other child had tapped his arm to ask if he wished to join their game. He had been diagnosed as having ADHD before we came to Prof Singh. The real case was so different and here we were feeding him concerta everyday before going to school and having more problems when he got back. What I want to say is, we don’t invest in our children and just follow the herd blindly. Honestly we save money, we look for bargains and then we feed our children all sorts of nonsene medicines with wrong assessments. This is what I am thank to Prof Singh. For straightforwardness and knowing what to do.

I Used to stay away from my parents since I started college and I was not be able to discuss much of my life with them. I have a elder brother so my parents gave most of their attention to him. Once in college I started feeling very lonely and hung out with a group of friends who seemed to accept me with all my flaws. Later I met a boy through my friends and he was too good to be true. He made me feel very loved and cherished and we went out and hung out a lot. We would go out shopping and explore new cafes and he told me all about his life and his family and I became very sympathetic towards him. We got into a proper relationship and 7 months in it he started cheaating on me. Keyword go out with other girls behind my back and go on car rides with them and I would not know about it since I would be studying for my exams. He would also go to oyos and get intimate with them and I would never get to know till the very end. Then when I would question him he would start just fine and become very passive aggresive towards me. There came a time when he hit me once and started abusing me every time I suspected him of doing something wrong which he actually did. The girls who he was with while being with me showed me messages and pictures of him and his advances towards them. Then he would try in say that he would like to marry me and I should talk to my parents about him. When it came down to finances he would ask me to borrow money from my parents so that we could stabilize ourself and get married. Once I started giving him money he started abusing me for more and kept on cheaating on me. I became so helpless that when I turns towards my parents for help they refused to get involved. Then I went to my close friend who suggested that I break away from my relationship and concentrate on my final year and visit GB Singh Sir. I broke the relationship with his help and he spoke to my father to help me and also pay for my treatment. His care and understanding was very nice and humble.

I used to think that people who talk about depression are faking it and making it up to get pity but when my own wife begin to suffer a situation i which she got severe anxiety and panic to go out of the house after 6 months we decided to take it very seriously and approached Dr Singh

The gone by 10 months things had deteriorated so badly that fear and avoidance of situations along with people and places where it would be unsafe to have a a panic attack like a mall even our local vegetable market began to affect my wife severely

This lead to a situation of a specific problem where in the morning she would not get out of bed until I also got out of bed and accompanied her to the kitchen and help her make it because she felt scared being alone and wanted somebody That is me around her

Any family social gathering for any friendship , social gathering she would always avoid and there would be a fight for at least 24 hours before my wife would agree to come and then again it was because of some kind of of a fear that she would be requested for a performance being a good dancer and once you are backtage am back you would have to to talk to everybody after that and this is something that is not possible as per her.

When we came to to Professor Singh on video i very hesitant because of the cultural issues where we thought that everybody will think that my wife is maad and that we have a a person with mental condition at home and we will lose all the friends in our society we anyway were extremely sensitive To The Social position they were in or their husbands held.

She would miss interpret ordinary situations as quite serious and big things in her own house.

It is extremely difficult to explain but when my wife spoke to Dr Singh and I was sitting right behind her. Dr Singh asked me to do so let the client speak and i make some noyes notes contribute something to the patients need for any help I was surprised when she began to speak of issues like dizziness for weakness and fatigue. I was not even aware of these low-grade depressive or anxious symptoms and would attribute all this to her inability to go out of the house and rather than proceding randomly processing maade her do a very detailed questioaire ,. For which I am thankful. that time and feel I got was a very big boon for me because I work in the government sector as a Section Officer..

With gradual trust building measures she began to open up to him with me sitting by a side, I learnt that faulty interpretation of physical signs and sensations as evidence of physical illness is central so as we were being explained we begin to understand that it this category of disorders are basically disorders of cognition perception with strong emotional contributions.

Unlike most individuals we found that my wife with other somatic symptom issues was actually experiencing physical sensations which are common to all of us that she was very quickly focusing her attention on these sensations and then I would not be able to relax and would sit down on the sofa and start watching TV. I thought that the psychologist would recommend not watching TV but I was surprised when he recommended to my wife to watch as much TV as she wants but to first finish our household chores and then switch the TV on and until then she could switch the TV even at 0 volume if she felt that there Was Nobody around her and she needed somebody's company.

We initially we had gone for medication , hopeing to make her alright professor Singh was able to show my wife that her diorders were an enhanced perceptual sensitivity to illness use where she was tending to interpret ambiguous stimuli as threatening and then she would become very aware when I say very well it means she would become very frightened of any sign of possible illness or disease and even going to the party because she felt that she would pick up somebody's virus and then fall sick. Now gradual help over the last six months she has understood that although it is not certain the cure is unlikely to be found in isolated psychopathological factors and that fundamental causes of the problems were similar to those implicated in the family disorders. Before all this started we had such a wonderful life and never knew what hyperresponsiveness was

In my wife's case her hyperresponsiveness it probably had combined with a tendency to view negative life events as unpredictable and uncontrollable and therefore to be guarded against at all times. In discussion it came out that her first year of marriage seemed to coincide inside her with the beginning of the disorder. Additionally being the third daughter of a family after birth she had been given a way to her grandmother to be raised as a child Till the age of 11 years and this also had maade a significant impact on her thinking process because she was in her grandmother's company almost all the time and I must clarify that her grandmother is an extremely kind and devout and Pious lady.

We came to realise that there had been a disproportionate incidence of disease in her family when they were children even today my wife had not fall sick she was carrying strong memories of illness that had become the focus of life as well as the focus of anxiety.i am grateful for all the help provided to us