How to stay and deal with envious parent

Family counselling can be helpful for you

Hi It sounds like you’re living in a house of mirrors—where your parents reflect different expectations, emotions, and criticisms at different times, making it hard to see your own path clearly. One moment, they tell you to focus on success, and the next, they pull you away from it, making you question if your priorities are even valid. Here’s the truth: Their contradictions are not about you—they are about them. Like a mirror that distorts your reflection, they project their own fears, insecurities, and need for control onto you. They want you to succeed, but only in ways that make sense to them. And when you do succeed, it can trigger their own unresolved disappointments, making them downplay your achievements. How to Deal with It? 1. See Through the Mirror – Recognize that their words don’t define you. Their inconsistency is their own struggle, not yours. 2. Stick to Your Reflection – You know what your priorities are. If they try to shake your confidence, stay firm and remind yourself, “This is my journey, not theirs.” 3. Strategic Detachment – Respond, but don’t react. If they guilt-trip you, instead of defending yourself, try a neutral response like “I understand you feel that way” and continue your work. 4. Selective Listening – Not every comment needs a response. Let their words pass through you instead of absorbing them. 5. Create Mental Space – If you can’t leave physically, make an emotional boundary. Have your own routines, hobbies, and support system that aren’t influenced by their expectations. 6. Plan for Independence – If finances keep you there, slowly work towards freedom. Even if it takes time, having a vision of your future keeps you mentally strong. You’re not the confused one—their mirror keeps shifting. But the more you trust your own reflection, the less their distortions will affect you. If you want to take online therapy sessions, connect with me on nine two six six seven two six zero six five.

Go for family counseling with your parents to a psychiatrist or clinical psychologist. Good luck

Hi there, A detailed history is needed about you and your parents. It’s also important to understand what went wrong between you your parents. Details of your childhood development, about your siblings,about the personality of your parents.

Be positive in your thoughts. Your details are needed as a “Approach to a Problem “. Meet a mental health professional preferably with one of your closed friend or family member.