Handling 13years child. This situation.

My son is not listening to me.he is misbehaving with me.hurting me physically.my husband is not scolding him but holding me responsible for it..He is staying in Pune for his work..I m worried here. My son is very arrogant with me.. Using bad words for me.. My husband after having child shifted to Pune for his job.so for last 14 years we r having this kind of life I m working women without help of my in-law I tried to manage with job small baby with baby sitting. My husband is not behaving properly in front of child.so child is reflecting same behaviour.i told him to not react in bad way but he is ignoring it.he holding me responsible for my child. Now I m not able to manage with his misbehaviour.job.my helath. Infact I m feedup with holding responsibility. I want to run fro this situation..