Extreme stress. Tolerate and move on?

Is it a mothers job to take care of the baby.. Is it not the responsibility of a father too? Is it written anywhere that husbands or dads are only there for earning purpose and mothers should do house work.. Baby care.. Husband care.. In laws care... Don't we have any choice? How to balance things? Why husbands are demanding and do not care about wife's health either post having kids? And why are we taken for granted and spk utter nonsense when we question.. And shut our mouths . I'm unable to deal with people who are torchering me emotionally n Physically.. How to take it forward.. I can't stand myself n avoid them.. Is it anti social? Who kept rules? Why always women's should go through pain mentally and tolerate and move on?