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How to stay and deal with envious parent
My parents have been very confusing. Over the decades they say, we want the best for you, work hard, focus on studies, but they don't provide the peace of mind or the time to concentrate for a moment to give my best in studies or job.
I focus on my wellbeing, my goals, suddenly there will be something that they want me to do for them because THEY think, it's far more important than my goals.
If I say, I have work or assignment to finish, I cannot help right now,
they will say 'but you don't do anything only, OR oh! you're busy with that low income job, that's more important?.
I tried talking to parents, in every way possible, but they never acknowledged it as a problem.
It's confusing how one face can talk 10 different things,
And if I do well in studies or job
they don't like it, in fact they scrutinize you with other failures you have come across.
I have to stay with them due to financial reasons but how do I deal with such two faced people who are supposed to my parents?
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It sounds like you’re living in a house of mirrors—where your parents reflect different expectations, emotions, and criticisms at different times, making it hard to see your own path clearly. One moment, they tell you to focus on success, and the next, they pull you away from it, making you question if your priorities are even valid.
Here’s the truth: Their contradictions are not about you—they are about them. Like a mirror that distorts your reflection, they project their own fears, insecurities, and need for control onto you. They want you to succeed, but only in ways that make sense to them. And when you do succeed, it can trigger their own unresolved disappointments, making them downplay your achievements.
How to Deal with It?
1. See Through the Mirror – Recognize that their words don’t define you. Their inconsistency is their own struggle, not yours.
2. Stick to Your Reflection – You know what your priorities are. If they try to shake your confidence, stay firm and remind yourself, “This is my journey, not theirs.”
3. Strategic Detachment – Respond, but don’t react. If they guilt-trip you, instead of defending yourself, try a neutral response like “I understand you feel that way” and continue your work.
4. Selective Listening – Not every comment needs a response. Let their words pass through you instead of absorbing them.
5. Create Mental Space – If you can’t leave physically, make an emotional boundary. Have your own routines, hobbies, and support system that aren’t influenced by their expectations.
6. Plan for Independence – If finances keep you there, slowly work towards freedom. Even if it takes time, having a vision of your future keeps you mentally strong.
You’re not the confused one—their mirror keeps shifting. But the more you trust your own reflection, the less their distortions will affect you.
If you want to take online therapy sessions, connect with me on nine two six six seven two six zero six five.
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Hi there,
A detailed history is needed about you and your parents.
It’s also important to understand what went wrong between you your parents. Details of your childhood development, about your siblings,about the personality of your parents.
Next Steps
Be positive in your thoughts.
Your details are needed as a “Approach to a Problem “.
Meet a mental health professional preferably with one of your closed friend or family member.
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